Ok folks, real talk; most people take naked pictures of themselves. Even if you normally don’t, things happen. Sometimes, you get a little tipsy, you realize your phone has a camera built in and you rationalize that you’re only going to send it to your partner right? Right?! Wrong! You can send it to the wrong person, or you can get extra confident and send it to everyone. If you can not handle people you have to interact with seeing your nudes don’t send them to people, and especially don’t make porn of yourself. Breakups make people bitter and terrible and they do and say things that you didn’t think they would be capable of. Continue reading
It is Christmas time and, as is tradition, queers across the land are preparing to go visit their terrible suburban home towns. Suburbia is the haven of the nuclear family; a white picket fence, and 2.5 decidedly heterosexual children. However, you don’t always get what you want, and every Christmas queer kids go home and get told they’re going to hell and/or are better off dead by people who claim to love them.
Ahoy there anal explorers! Today on Fetish Friday we are going to explore the wide and wonderful world that exists inside of your anus. This week we are going to talk about lube, pegging, and of course that everybody poops! So join me, your posterior professor, for this sphincter seminar. Continue reading
So, first thing’s first. I know all of you know that condoms exist. Everyone is aware that there is a little rubber tube you put a penis in before said penis participates in sexual contact. We have all heard the myriad assortment of slogans from “no glove no love” to “don’t be a fool vulcanize your tool.” Every teen movie seems to have some frustrated gym/health teacher handing out condoms while telling students that if they have sex, they will die. In fact, my own pubescence was spent with the mantra “what are drugs? Bad. what are boys? Bad.” because interaction with penis-bearing individuals would result in my contracting thousands of STDs and dying. As a result of my childhood mantra, safe sex has always been an obsession of mine. To me, genitals are like comic books: unless it’s your own, you shouldn’t handle it without a protective sleeve. That being said, barriers go beyond just covering penises in plastic and it’s time to talk about that.
Disclaimer: The following recap discusses major spoilers contained in the pilot of Westworld. Read at your own risk.
On Bingefest, Geek Spectrum will watch a just-released series, and then offer you, the reader, their impulsive first thoughts immediately following their viewing. First up — Marvel’s Luke Cage. Major spoilers may be discussed, so read at your own risk. Continue reading
Within the confines of new age kink there are two acronyms that separate us from the animals. RACK, or Risk Aware Consensual Kink, and SSC, or Safe Sane Consensual, are two philosophies that people cling to desperately and they are complete and utter bullshit. Continue reading
A while back consent came into vogue. The internet was plastered with the slogan “consent is sexy”; but consent isn’t sexy. Consent is necessary. Consent is a fundamental right to control what happens to your own body. As informed members of the modern world, we want to form a consent based culture. Consent Culture is when a community as a whole focuses on understanding and practicing informed consent in all of their actions.
A lot of things have to happen for consent to happen truly and fully. For consent to exist it must be informed; everyone has to know what is going on and be able to comprehend what is happening (this is why an animal or a toaster can’t consent folks!). Consent also has to be enthusiastically given, you can’t take someone saying “well maybe I dunno” as “why yes put your fist in my ass that is my jam!”. A reluctant yes is not really a yes.
Consent needs to be sober. This does not mean stone cold sober, drinks happen I get that; but everyone does need to be in charge of all of their faculties. If someone is falling over drunk they can not consent. If someone is passed out they can not consent. We really should not have to explain that bit folks.
Consent has to be freely given, if someone is coerced, if they feel threatened or in danger if they say no, they can not actually consent. Consent is necessary for all areas of life where you interact with others. Any interaction with another human that human has to consent to.
The kink community is the most consent obsessed group of people I have ever met and it is fantastic. That was the first place where I encountered people gaining consent for casual touching. The phrase “Is it alright to shake hands” was groundbreaking to me; because actually it wasn’t I don’t like to touch people I don’t know very well. Kink is the first place I encountered people who did not question my choice to give or deny consent.
Consent violations happen, they are a part of life. Most of these violations are small, they are little bumps in the road dealt with with a simple apology. A consent violation can be anything from unwanted contact, to rape. Like everything else in our world consent violations fall along a spectrum. Educating people when minor consent violations occur instead of staying silent helps to perpetuate consent culture. For us to stay a consent minded community we must be vigilant and yet still remain understanding.
Consent culture is a responsibility. We are responsible for self policing without turning everything into a witch hunt. Keep consent in mind when you are interacting with new people, what may come to you with ease may be something that others need to work up to. Remember, just because you’re a hugger doesn’t mean that everyone you meet is a hugger to. Consent is as simple as asking a question and respecting the answer. Let’s make a point to ask first, and help take consent culture into the mainstream.
Let’s be completely frank here, everyone shits all over furries. It’s awful, but that’s how it works. Furries are a rather misunderstood bunch of people. A furry is simply a person who likes to dress up like a humanoid animal. That’s it. Nobody is having sex with animals or enticing children. It’s just people playing dress-up. At the weirdest, furries are consenting adults having sex in costumes. Continue reading
So everybody does the weird stuff, or at least thinks about trying the weird stuff, at least once in their lives. Nobody is a deviant for a little bit of consensual spanking. Everybody smacks or gets smacked in the bedroom at least once; I mean it happens. However not everyone will dive into the kink community at large. Eventually on our sex ed odyssey we will cover all sorts of specifics of kink but for now let’s talk about kink 101. Continue reading